There are so many important people involved on the day of your wedding, and so many moving parts. I remember my wedding day and I didn’t realize how many people, vendors, family, and workers were involved in making the day so smooth till I reflected back. People often say Photographers “make or break” the wedding. Or they say it’s Family dynamics, the wedding planner, or DJ. Whatever your experience is… it’s all valid. But, what if I said that bridesmaids also have the power to make a wedding GREAT, even Amazing! Yes, a wedding is supposed to be a party. But what are some ways you can make the bride’s wedding spectacular as the MOH or bridesmaid?

Bridesmaids, You set the tone for the morning.

When you come in, be mindful of the energy you bring. Who knows how much sleep the bride got last night… maybe she didn’t sleep at ALL. Come in with a positive mindset, bring a bluetooth speaker and play some favorite music you all can listen too. Bring a favorite snack or food for the bride. Make her feel calm and special. Don’t bring up any unnecessary, stressful news to her. Be kind and friendly to each other. Even if you aren’t a fan of some of the other bridesmaids. You girls set the tone.

Selfless Mindset

It’s so important to remember who we are celebrating. Your bride NEEDS you during crucial moments: getting prepped, first look, assistance with dress, veil, bathroom breaks, maybe getting the groomsmen gathered, timeline knowledge, ring locations, being another set of hands for photographer etc.

Hold on this isn’t what you signed up for as a bridesmaid… Sounds like a job for a wedding planner right? But sadly, not everyone can afford a wedding planner or wedding day coordinator. I know I couldn’t.

I looked into a day of coordinator and it just wasn’t in the budget. I couldn't afford 2-4k for a “day of coordinator.” And this is where family friends, bridesmaids, and Maid of honor stepped in to fill these roles. You might not be an event planner but I bet you can pay attention to a clock and help others be timely. My maid of honor was my best friend and she had no event planning experience. But she knew the timeline of the wedding, how the tables were supposed to be decorated, she knew to be a second set of hands for the photographer during portraits, and she knew what was really important to me.

She was THERE. And that was the difference. Some of the things she ended up helping with we didn’t even discuss, she was just there. And she was truly a blessing because of it. Mind you, this does not need to all be on one person. That’s a lot. Everyone has different gifts and talents. But Bridesmaids, you all have a different set of skills and attention to things and combined you can be a lending hand to the bride in any way she needs and be right by her Side.